Absence of A FATHER

So you’ve read about the King…. Its sparked different emotions across people and mainly A SAD one for me as one of the people who are close too me just experienced this

After the death of a father, it is very difficult for the children and family to know what to do with the emotions and empty feelings that come on Father’s Day. Their friends may have plans with their Dad’s, and talking about this may make them sad and uncomfortable. You may also see anxiety and anger levels rise. I’m not going to try and write about the loss of a father yet theKING is still alive, so I thought I would get insight from those who experience this daily.

“People say I look like him, I look in the mirror and I see him. I ask the mirror “Dad u are back?, I look away and look back at the mirror I see myself then DAMN it’s not him, it’s me. DAD COME BACK DAD COME BACK!!!!. I miss u so much you are gone too soon, how could you leave us so sudden we still young how do you expect us to live without you. Every day I wake up in this house I wish I could see my parents coming in and say they were just testing us… I still can’t believe I don’t have both parents. I’m reminded of this void every time I listen to my colleagues at work calling their parents telling them how much they love them. I look at my phone I have no one to call, but call my eldest sister *(Mbali) who had to assume the role of mom and dad but it’s not the same. I chat to my younger sister *(Thuli), the question I have is, if I’m not coping then how the HELL is she holding up so strong?? OH Lord what have WE done to deserve this this sorta pain??..On Mbali’s wedding day everyone is present except two people who raised her into the phenomenal woman she is today. Thuli is doing great in tertiary just mom and dad had planned. I just fathered a baby boy. Will I be able to be the father you were to me because I was robbed of you? Only memories left in our hearts and minds.

P.S. Tribute to Bab’ Nsibande who passed away 29/05/2013, you will be missed. May your soul rest in eternal peace.
Tribute to Bab’ Tshabalala and all the other fallen FATHERS… *XOXOXOXO*

* not their real names.


Father, relationship,

From left to right… ME (Ntombi) My father Sipho and my older sister Sibongiseni..

“The fathers have eaten a sour grape and the children’s teeth are set on edge”. (Jeremiah, Book 31, Verse 29) This quote from the Bible represented the power of the father as the primary authority of the family for many centuries. A fathers word is unquestioned, they decisions he makes are not altered, the influence he has on the people he has in his surroundings. My father is a living testimant of the above verse. God has granted us with a man who understands his role and the responsibilities that come with it. #king #provider #lover #confidant #teacher #theKING

What is the reality these days? There is no question that fathers do play an important part in their children’s lives. My FATHER has been present from birth till now, Thank the good Lord for still keeping him around.
My FATHER to whom in these posts will be referred to as the KING, no where in these posts will i hear you call him by his first name. #bigsisteriswatchingyou

Sipho Paul Mkhonza (theKING) is a father of three, me(24) Sibongiseni(29) and Thulani(34), we are all 5years apart. Technically its 4 kids because he had a daughter (39) that i only discovered in 2004 and i was 16, so there wont much mentions about her. His is married my QUEEN my mother Zandile Mkhonza. Together they make the ideal couple. #PARENTS4ALIFETIME

Its as important to a son as it it to a daughter to have a father figure in their lives. He provides a feeling of constant protection and stability. If the father consumes his role and responsilities at the right time in a childs life, he will raise a QUEEN OR KING.
“So much of what a father teaches his children is not necessarily done by sitting down and talking to them, but by behaving the way he wants his children to behave,” says Matthew Weinshenker, PhD, assistant professor of sociology at Fordham University.

MyKINGs teachings are instilled in you as a toddler then you choose as the child whether to take all of them and live by them or live by some of them. thKING is strict, he doesnt tolerrate bullshit coming from ANYONE.
The King is the realdeal.. From his million teachings i have chosen a few of which i will go through each in details.

The people who are aspiring fathers, the people who are fathers now and want be something of the REALDEAL (something like theKING) I SUGGEST YOU DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR ND TAKE NOTES.


theKING himself is an asservite person. He believes that if you want to be taken seriously in society you have to be assertive and stand by your word, a word that substance. “Mawukhuluma fanele uzwakale”.

The presence of the father in his childrens lives is more than just being a provider but being theKING……